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How To Stop Blame Game: First step to success

Many of us are facing many problems in our daily life. Problems like Failure in exams, Economic problems, not getting the desired job, not getting admission in college we dreamed of, not getting life partner as you desired, sometimes we can’t complete our dream. Like this, their many failures or you can say problems we guys face in our daily life. So sometimes we find an excuse for it. Sometimes we play the blame game. Many of you also play this blame game in your life? Well after reading the following story this story you will discover how we all play this game and how to get rid of it!

Aber is a boy of 16 years. Like other teenagers, he was also very moody, aggressive and have lots of desires. Aber lived in Ahmadabad and study at Delhi public school and was a student of 12 science side. He has dreamed to be a psychiatrist. He was a very intelligent student and was working very hard for his medical entrance test. His father was an Advocate. His father and mother always supported all those activities that Aber wants to do. But still, Aber was not happy with his dad and mom. As a teenager, he assumed that whatever he thinks for himself is right and his parents didn’t know about his dreams. Aber was very rude to his parents. For any small problem that he is facing in his life, he blames his parents for this. Forex:  One-day Aber can’t find his physics notes because he forgets where he kept that notes last time. He was very angry with his mom and was blaming her mom for his misplaced notes. He was just shouting and shouting and blaming his mom ” whatever loss he is going to face because of her mom”. Meanwhile, his mom found that notes. Aber after getting notes said to her mom be careful next time. Like this one-day Aber was in a very hurry as he was late for his coaching. He found that his bicycle”s tire was burst. After seeing that Aber got very angry and he shouted on his father why he didn’t remind him that the bicycle tire is not good. He even didn’t listen to his father and left the house in aggression. Like this Aber played the blame game by blaming his parents for any of the problem or misery happened with him. Days past and Aber gave medical entrance tests. Aber qualified that entrance exam. But he can”t score that much to get admission in MBBS. Like Aber has a habit of blaming, he blamed his parents this time also. Then after a few days, he gets admission Physiotherapy. But not in college Aber desired of. After few days Aber starting facing some problems in his college life like Exam tension, college politics, not getting adjusted in the college atmosphere. Every evening Aber had an argument with his parents that he wants to left this college and course. He blames his parents for all the problems he was facing in college. And Aber thought that parents are not ready to understand him and they want him to do this course at any cost. Because of this, he was getting more & more aggressive. Aber due to all this wants one person to understand him. So he gets connected to one girl of his college and they both talk to each other on social media and in college. Even rumors were also spread in college that Aber and Nivedita was in a relationship. But he was not affected. Because he knew that they both were just friends and Nivedita was not going to leave him alone. He even fights with his friends, teachers, and parents for Nivedita. But one day his blind faith gets broked. Nivedita left him and said, ” she doesn’t want Aher as a friend and don’t want to talk to him”. Aber was totally shocked and stunned and he tried a lot of times to talk to Nivedita but every time she ignores him. Then he was alone and start feeling depressed. At this time his mother supported him a lot. Meanwhile, his grandfather was expired. When he shared this thing with Nivedita, she said:” she doesn’t know what to do at this time”. And the end of discussion. At that time Aber realized that his parents, friends and one of his teacher was always with him and was supporting him and he was wrong. He felt so guilty and even cried lots of times. Then after 1 or 2-month, Aber had to give a semester exam, So he gets focused on that. With the help of his mother’s support, he got good marks in that exam and passed that exam. Meanwhile, Aber realized he was playing the blame game and he decided to get rid of this habit want to live a peaceful and happy life.

How Abher gets rid of this habit?

Aber, after reading several books and watching several videos, followed some steps

  • First, he realized that whatever happened with him whether good or bad he is only responsible for it.
  • He then realized that each and everyone makes many mistakes in his/ her life and he had not murdered anyone.
  • No one is perfect
  • And he can’t please everyone from his activities.

Then he repeated the following affirmation;

Be quiet, be still, you are in control, you are subjected to my order, don’t intrude where you don’t belong.

Then he chose to be happy every time. You guys want to know how?? By just repeating following affirmation when he opens his eyes in the morning, and saying, “Divine order takes charge of my life today and every day. All things work together for good for me today. This is a new and wonderful day for me. There will never be another day like this one. I am divinely guided all day long, and whatever I do will prosper. Divine love surrounds me, enfolds me, and enwraps me, and I go forth in peace. Whenever my attention wanders away from that which is good and constructive, I will immediately bring it back to the contemplation of that which is lovely and of good report. I am a spiritual and mental magnet attracting to myself all things, which bless and prosper me. I am going to be a wonderful success in all my undertakings today. I am definitely going to be happy all day long.”

He finally overcomes this by realizing the above truth and by repeating this affirmation. And he is now a successful physiotherapist. He stopped this blame game. And he is living happily.

So I guess you guys have found out whether you also play this blame game or not !! If yes then do the above repetition and accept the truth.

And congratulations You are HAPPY And SUCCESSFUL

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